--Apple-Mail-42F7B479-2096-4C1A-850F-4CD043A0D981 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable Its time to replace Nike. Philippe called me also.=20 Maria Licoudis, Registered Nurse, C.N.C.C, N.M.C Care Manager Home Care Assistance mlicoudis@homecareassistance.com www.homecareassistancemontreal.ca Office: 514-907-5065 Begin forwarded message: > From: "Marc Laporta, Dr." > Date: July 5, 2018 at 1:15:32 PM GMT-4 > To: Maria Licoudis RN > Cc: "philippe.laporta@gmail.com" , "denny.lapo= rta@gmail.com" > Subject: Re: Nike off July 10 from 5-10pm >=20 >=20 > Hi Maria >=20 > You asked me last week if I had any concerns about Nike and I have wanted t= o communicate a few things with you, that my brothers know about as well. > Nothing, by the way, to do with the event yesterday. >=20 > As you know, we are always considering the priorities for our mom.=20 > We need safety first of course, but safety with someone like my mother, as= we have learned, depends also on how she and the person with her can relate= .=20 > Our mom, despite her memory issues, remains quite able to enjoy "relating"= , and thrives on this, and on "sharing" whenever possible. > She often feels somewhat responsible for the person there with her, and ma= kes efforts to connect and share ideas or activities. > Outside of this, mom is not so demanding, and only wants to NOT feel disre= spected, disliked, or misunderstood. Pretty basic. Nothing you don't know. >=20 > But this relating does take various forms. She assumes that meals, appreci= ating life, and talking about loved ones are universal things to share and t= o connect through. > More sophisticated things may be : more involved conversations about the w= orld, talking art and music, collaborating on basic activities like walking o= r cooking. > Being able to draw or paint together like she has with Nova comes as a gre= at surprise and bonus, but in no way expected or required. >=20 > So I was struck by the few encounters with Nike last week: > As mentioned, as a first remark, she told me that she is "coping" with bei= ng with Mom, and this after only a few days with her. > I was also struck by her way of talking about how meals are a source of st= ress for her. Mom wants to share, Nike does "neither like nor know about Mom= 's kind of food" she told me. > She explained Mom's wanting to share food as "inflexibility because of her= age", a comment that denoted a misunderstanding that these situations are n= ot about food, but about sharing...=20 > I would have hoped not for Nike to accept mom's food, but to identify that= food is important, and to be able to talk a bit about their different foods= , for ex.=20 > It could have been fun. Mom is super open about such things cultural. > But more importantly, I was taken aback when after indeed eagerly sharing "= our" food (at Mom's birthday), and then kindly helping with the dishes,=20 > Nike was washing some plates while skyping with her brother